“ A Mother Refusing That She Needs Elder Care near Marina Del Rey CA”
You noticed that your mother was beginning to have some trouble in her home. You discovered that she was skipping some meals and struggling to take care of her personal hygiene. You did what you could to help her, but you have a busy schedule and little time to get over to her house. That’s why you brought up elder care options.
She refused to even consider anything to do with home care for elderly patients. You knew that she would be dismissive of it at first, but she was adamant. She refused to even think about herself in terms of a patient or person who needed help going to the bathroom or taking a shower.
Yet the evidence was there and you couldn’t ignore it. Her hair was often dirty, she wore the same clothes day after day, and she was looking thin, frail, and she was beginning to have direct health problems as a result.
You contacted an elderly home care agency in the area that had a lot of experience working with patients who were either reluctant or outright refused to consider hiring any type of home care for elderly individuals. They told you that you need to respect your mother’s decision first and foremost. You told them that it appeared to be a case of safety and well-being for your mother. They, in turn, sat down with you to go over a number of important issues and things that you should know about elderly home care so that you could inform your mother about them.
Often, people dismiss help because they don’t fully understand it, or they have the wrong idea about it. The more information that you obtain, the better understanding your mother may have of elder care. She continued to refuse elder care, and one day she had to be admitted to the hospital for pneumonia. After that was a broken leg from a fall.
Still she refused. At this point I was even more concerned for her safety. I began researching, and asking others what other options are there. A coworker mentioned the legal option, which is a long, and often painful process (emotionally painful) to convince a judge that your mother poses a risk to herself and that decisions about her care should move to you or a medical professional.
Being that the process is long, it’s often not ideal. It can also cause rifts in relationships. If you believe your mother would be best served through elder care, continue to inform her about it and what it can offer her. In the meantime, keep the lines of communication open, be supportive, and try to understand her mode of thinking. When you do, you’ll understand the best way to convince her.
There’s no one answer to the question of when the time is right for in-home care.
However, if you consider the points raise here today, you’ll have a better idea of when it’s time for in-home care.
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